rebuilding
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Part 1: The Way the World Sees Single Mums… and the Questions It Planted in Me
A reflective look at how single mums are perceived, the mental load of motherhood, and how identity, values, and self-awareness shape how we respond. Read more
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The Day My Childminder Came Back (Why Support Matters More Than We Admit as Mums)
A single mum of three reflects on the emotional impact of having childcare support return, and why the mental load of motherhood is heavier than we admit. Read more
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Why Organised People Plan Everything: The Psychology of Mental Load and Responsibility
People often joke about “the organised one.” The person with lists. The one who plans three steps ahead. The one who already has a backup plan. Sometimes it’s said with admiration. Sometimes with a little amusement. But for many of us, organisation is not just a personality trait. It’s a coping strategy. And psychology research… Read more
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Two Birthdays. One Lesson in Strength.
This year, my daughter and I shared a birthday celebration on the same day. What sounded beautiful in theory became one of the most stretching, refining, and revealing experiences I’ve had in a long time. Planning a children’s party is not just about balloons and cake. It is logistics. It is budgeting. It is communication.… Read more
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While I Was Quiet
For the last couple of weeks, I haven’t been posting. Not because I was stuck. Not because I didn’t know what to say. But because I was building. In the middle of planning a birthday weekend, organising RSVPs, managing motherhood, and navigating real life, something shifted. I did a photoshoot for my daughter in our… Read more
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The Power of Rest: Strength in Low-Energy Times
The Power of Rest: Strength in Low-Energy Times We’re taught that strength looks like momentum. That rest is something you earn after you’ve pushed hard enough. But what if rest isn’t the opposite of strength? What if it is strength, especially in low-energy times? Lately, I’ve been learning to stop fighting my energy levels and… Read more
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Effortless Cleaning: Prioritizing What Matters Most
Some days, cleaning feels manageable. Other days, it feels like the thing that tips everything else over. I’ve learned that the difference isn’t motivation or discipline. It’s clarity. When I try to keep on top of everything, cleaning becomes overwhelming. When I’m clear about what actually matters, it becomes something that supports my life instead… Read more
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When the Sink Blocked: Why Simplifying Helps Me Keep on Top of Cleaning
The sink blocked on a day that already felt full. This time, it wasn’t something I could fix quickly. A communal blockage caused water to overflow back into the kitchen, turning a normal morning into damage control. Breakfast needed doing. Dishes were waiting. And suddenly, something as basic as running the sink wasn’t possible. Everything… Read more
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After the Stretch: A Gentle Reset for Overwhelmed Parents
After a heavy week, there’s often a temptation to fix everything. To reorganise. Reset routines. Address behaviour. Catch up on what slipped. Push harder so things feel back under control. I’ve learned not to do that. When life has stretched me in multiple directions, what I actually need isn’t more effort. It’s less noise. Less… Read more
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When Life Expands All at Once
Life doesn’t pause for change, and juggling parent, daughter, employee, and carer roles has never been more demanding. Read more
Raising Three, Rebuilding Me 